Communication in Marriage

Communication is defined as an exchange of information. The secret to communication in marriage is to get to a point where you and your spouse are effectively exchanging information. I can only go by what I have experienced in my personal life. Each situation is different and each relationship is different.

You have to find out what works best in your relationship. In our relationship we had to learn how to communicate with each other by actually sharing our feeling and stop trying to analyze the other person and then offer suggestions on how the other person was feeling. This meant to truly share our feelings with each other about what was going on, what was affecting our mood, and also about how we felt about how the other person was making you feel. Based on my experience, communication in marriage is not about who’s right and wrong. It’s about learning to grow as a couple and truly being able to express your opinion in a loving, honest way.

A big part of communicating is about compromising, learning that everything doesn’t need an answer, about realizing that you both have input into the relationship and it’s not about who’s right or wrong but it’s about learning to mesh two personalities into one that compliments each other and understand each other. You don’t have to be the expert or the problem solver. You just have to be willing to be a part of the conversation. You have to be respectful of the other person feeling and know it’s not all about you.

Talk to each other about things that matter as well as “chit chat”. Learn to laugh at each other and at yourself. It takes effort but the end result is very rewarding. You build a world of honesty and a sense of trust and good. Take the opportunity to invest in your relationship with an open line of communication with your spouse. Things change, things happen and you want to be there tuned in, listening and talking with your spouse to stay abreast of what’s going on with your relationship, with you, with him.

Communication in marriage is learning to talk, laugh, share, and love together. If you have a Godly marriage, you will have help and direction along the way. Remember you’re not alone.

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